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Limbo……not the dancing kind.

You want it! You know you want it. You’ve been preparing, visualizing, praying, expecting and putting lots of action behind it! Tony Robbins calls it “massive action”.

Yet –  nothing happens.

We’ve all experienced it: limbo. Never-never land, where our plans or expectations don’t come together, while life marches on.

You could call waiting in line a form of limbo, being on hold on the phone or waiting for something or someone.

Sadly, this indeterminate state is part of life. For the most part it’s brief; we just have to muddle through it, be patient and it’ll pass.

But what if you are experiencing an extended limbo state, one that lasts for months or, God forbid, years?

What do you do? What can you do?

I’ve experienced this state of uncertainty more than once. Years ago I lived in a location I disliked very much. It didn’t resonate, I didn’t fit in. My kids didn’t fit in.

I was determined to change our situation, but the place was like a black hole. It didn’t let us out. I left no stone unturned, no possibility unexplored, but it felt like quicksand. The more we tried to claw our way out, the more we sank.

It was a painful situation! I was unhappy.

The kids had nothing to compare it to, just some vague sense that things weren’t right.

Initially I had a lot of hope and enthusiasm because I couldn’t believe that the door was closed. I took massive action, for years.

Some situations require our determination and action is important to change our circumstances.

What if it doesn’t work? Like in my case.

Sam put several years into his education to become a psychologist later in life. He spent many late nights studying, doing research, writing papers. Then interning for a year, while raising his kids.

Interning is like volunteering; most agencies won’t pay anything. His didn’t.

 He and his wife agreed that she would support the family for the time being. So of course they were both excited and ready to finally see him graduate and begin this new life.

Graduation was a big celebration among his family and friends; the following Monday the résumés went out. One after the other without response.  Some places were kind enough to thank him for his interest, but said they hired someone more suited for the position. He did not understand how that was determined since he never even had a chance to speak to anyone; the whole process was automated and every agency wanted him to apply online.

He sent out more résumés, he talked to people who might be in a position to recommend him. He called on the friends he made in school.

Several times he came close to a potential job: he was called in for some interviews, but didn’t get the position. His wife’s resentments built and they fought more often. He was shorter with the kids as he became increasingly frustrated. He felt useless, worthless and confused.

Had he made the right choice by going to school?

One night when the tension was unbearable, he sat down with his wife and they explored some other options he might have overlooked. They were one year into it and things were looking bleak. She suggested hanging out his shingle and offering counseling just to bring in some money.

This required marketing and he approached that with gusto, although technology and social media was not his strong suit.

Long story short: Two years later he was still in the same position and his marriage had reached a breaking point.

This is an extended limbo situation, wherein things seem to be deteriorating in life, while we wait for our plan to come together.

What was Sam’s option? He and his wife had carefully considered all angles, figured out how to support him through school so they could later enjoy a satisfying life together while raising their children. It was a good, well thought-out plan.

Being in prolonged limbo requires some tough soul searching. Our human nature urges us into a “doing” mode when things aren’t coming together.

If we try to force progress, we exhaust ourselves. We put extra strain on ourselves by trying to go against the flow.

Our mind may say “I don’t know what’s going on. We have to figure this out. Do something.”

Yet, we have to learn to live with uncertainty, especially during those times when nothing is coming together.

Uncertainty doesn’t stop you from living your life, because the mind is not the captain of our ship. We use our minds, but there is more at play than we can see.

At times planned projects fall away, as in the case of Sam. Many aspects of who we think we are have to fall away. Sometimes it seems that nothing comes to replace them.

Not for a while. Not yet.

We are living in limbo.

We have to trust that life brings us what we need to navigate through these stormy waters.

We could listen to our mind, but it doesn’t know what’s coming. It only wants illusory certainty. It grasps, searches, and clings.

Life seems to know when and where we need to go.

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Intuition…..Is it real?

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Listening to your gut. Inner voice. Instinct. A strong “sense” or “knowing”…

Whatever you want to call it, your intuition is a naturally built-in guidance system within you that will always lead you in the right direction in life.

  • Have you ever had the strong urge to speak to a stranger?
  • Have you ever just known that you had to take a certain action even though it seemed illogical or irrational? It only became clear much later why you had to do that.
  • Have you ever had a sick feeling in your stomach that you were compromising yourself, your integrity in a work situation or a friendship?
  • Have you ever been in an argument and you knew that you shouldn’t say what you are about to say, because you knew it would cause damage?
  • Have you ever felt strongly like leaving a job, a relationship or a friendship, but you could not explain why it was so urgent?
  • Have you ever taken a different route or turn in the road just because a strong feeling came over you?

This is your intuition speaking to you!

When you allow your intuition to guide your thoughts and actions, you feel on track. You trust in the universe to bring you what you need, to lead you to the appropriate people and situations.

You feel calmer, less stressed and have a sense of confidence in knowing that things will work out.

If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.

Once you begin to listen and follow your intuition, it becomes easier and easier to tune in to making the right choices, to sense the appropriate actions that put you in the flow. You are no longer swimming upstream. Things will fall into place, whether in your relationships, finances, business, health, love or any other area of your life. The more you trust it, the more empowered, stronger and happier you will become.

Your intuition already somehow knows who you truly want to become and guides you toward that.

Trust that small voice inside of you and it will never lead you astray!

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Next book coming out soon

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“Step On It”

Your search is over!!  A simple 8 step process to lift off. You will overcome fear, get unstuck and plugged in to Spirit to live a purposeful, powerful, exciting life. The life you’ve been meant to live all along.

Don’t you long for more meaning, joy, abundance and purpose? Don’t you deserve more? What are you waiting for?

Here are the tools to make it happen. This is all you need to be in charge of your life.

You need to allow yourself to be you, not some copy of someone else. As you get to know your real, true self, as you peel off the layers of convention, the more inspired you will feel.

So who are you? How can you uncover who you are?

Look at your life now. What do you like to do? When are you your happiest? The answers are already there. It may not look like something tangible, like cooking or woodworking; it may be reading, or watching people. You may have an eye for detail in fashion or decorating. You may enjoy sailing, perhaps listening to others’ problems. As you are reading this you may be saying: Yes, that sounds great, but I need to make money. Look at the many ways people create income: Someone came up with stuffing a teddy bear with filling and a heart, giving it a name and birth certificate.  There are professional waterslide testers, Storm Chasers, Video Game Designers, Coffee/Tea Tasters just to name a few unusual actual jobs. That doesn’t mean that you have to look at getting a job. You can design your life and get paid for it. People come up with new ways to make a living every day and you can too!

Pay attention and don’t dismiss anything. There are plenty of clues in your daily life. Let’s figure out what yours are!

There are 8 essential steps that are required for an Inspired Life.

 

 

 

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Gratitude

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Gratitude turns what you have into enough. When you are in a grateful state of mind, you’ll feel more positive, life is better and you’ll start attracting more positive people and circumstances. Thankfulness is an attitude that you can practice and develop. The whole experience of gratitude—is really about forcing ourselves to pay attention to the good things in life, things we’d otherwise take for granted. Start a journal about feeling grateful. I don’t think it’s necessary or even all that good to write every single day. There is the tendency to get numb to all the good things in our lives. It is similar to the numbness we develop when watching too much violence and suffering.

Start by feeling grateful for being alive. Give thanks for your body, even if you don’t like everything about it. Imagine not having this body, imagine not being able to touch, see, feel and hear the life around you.  Now look at your hands! Appreciate all they do and feel. Feel your skin as you rub that lotion in, notice as you touch that fuzzy blanket, your furry pet, that round stone from the beach. Hug someone in your family or a friend and really feel them. Do that with your eyes, your ears, your sense of taste and smell………..

So pay attention to your senses! What are you seeing? Notice the things you normally take for granted, like the colors of the flowers or the glistening of the snow. Notice the details in the landscape you see every day. Look at it with new eyes.

Listen, especially when it is quiet. Can you hear the wind rustling the leaves in the tree? Do you hear that dog barking? If he annoys you, imagine not being able to hear anything? That joy of hearing the birds in the morning. People laughing, a song you love, the sound of your kids’ voices……….notice the sounds of life all around you.

Enjoy the taste of your food. We usually gobble our meals without really considering what we are eating or drinking. Savor your food, anything can become a feast if you slow down and appreciate the flavors.

Smell that fresh coffee in the morning. The air right after it rained. The food, the flowers, that perfume you love, the smell of a newborn.

If it all gets to be too much, you are overwhelmed and no amount of goodwill is going to make a difference: get away! Leave the house, the job, the kids, maybe the country. Take some time off. Explore a different way of life. It’s ok, we are all just doing the best we can.

Avoid the trap of being grateful for something that is better than what other people have. Instead, compare whatever you are grateful for and imagine how you would feel if you didn’t have it at all. What if you wouldn’t have that family, those friends, or even your problems. What if you had Steven Hawkins’ problems, or President Obama’s or even your neighbor’s or friend’s problems? Practice gratitude and appreciation for everything in your life: people, abilities, experiences, our planet, plants…..the list is endless.

Usually our best memories are made when we are playful, light-hearted. Realize beauty in every moment, and in everyday activities. Make time for those moments. Be spontaneous. The most playful people are the ones who are most “tuned in” to the present. They’re so fascinated by the world at the moment that they’re always finding ways to engage it! For me one of the best ways to have fun and be completely present is boogie-boarding. It is pure joy to feel the water against my skin as I glide along on the wave.

People who have a strong sense of gratitude and count their blessings are generally happier and healthier. It is tough to feel thankful when things aren’t going right and you are stressed to the max. For that reason it is absolutely essential that you take a deep breath, get in the moment and find something to appreciate. You may tell me that I don’t understand because your deadline is in 5 minutes or the house is on fire……. but I maintain as long as you are physically safe – stop, breathe and find something good about your life right now. Like the old saying goes, “The past is history, the future is a mystery, and the present is a present”.

I love this prayer from Unity Church:

The light of God surrounds me;
The love of God enfolds me;
The power of God protects me;
The presence of God watches over me.
Wherever I am, God is and all is well.

It helps me to become present, to know that in this very moment I have all I need and everything is well. The world will not end because I am late for my appointment or I forgot to send that email. Choose Gratitude!

  • Become present. Know that in this moment all is well.
  • Relax! You can’t appreciate anything when you are stressed
  • Pay attention to your senses.
  • Every once in a while get away from it all.
  • Be playful!

To become a grateful goddess contact me.

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The New Book is Out!

Christina’s new book, How to Create Passion, Spirit & Adventure In Your Life, is now out and available on Amazon.com.

If you haven’t yet had a chance, please check out the book’s page on the Amazon.com website and leave a review or comment.

You can read more about the book here.

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Trust/Faith and Irregular Posts

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Oh boy I was so caught up writing my second book that I neglected my blog.

I was given the opportunity to watch how trust and faith work in our lives this past weekend. I want to share that with you, because if you are like me you need affirmation and reminders.

My friend Amy hit a rough spot in her life. Her car (I think it’s a lemon) did not start, she still had no job offers, her laptop finally broke completely and her cell phone was falling apart (the back had fallen off long ago and now the battery had fallen out). That meant no way to apply for a job and even if she could get one, she had no way to get there. It seemed that it could not get any darker, unless she became sick.

To be honest, she was not doing well. Fear almost got the better of her. Somehow….I admire that woman…..she kept affirming her faith and trust in a higher power, God. I tried to be positive with her, but really I did not hold out much hope. This was Friday evening.

On Monday morning she called AAA and had her car towed to a garage, where they discovered a tiny little problem that kept the car from starting. The cost: $56. Two hours after that, she found her phone battery and listened to a message asking her to call back. It was the manager of a company she had applied to and she got the job.

To top it off, a family member had an extra laptop that he let her borrow.

In a matter of three days her life turned around completely. I was stunned. It humbled me.

My upcoming book “How to create Passion, Spirit, Adventure in your life” has many of those uplifting stories. It seems that I should keep reading it to not lose my own faith. How are you keeping your trust and faith? Do you have a ritual that helps keep you on the path?

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My first blog

My book “How to create Passion, Spirit & Adventure in your life” is completed and being formatted and finished for publication through amazon.com. I can’t tell you what an amazing and exciting feeling it is. My intention is to provide thought-provoking, empowering and helpful information for you to implement.

The book is a real look at what people do who are true to themselves. It is not a lofty…if you just mediate, it will come…kind of approach. Without a doubt the Law of Attraction is in effect, but there is more. You will have access to real people who have traveled down their own path and found what makes them feel alive.

I will keep you posted on the progress.

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