Tag: responsibility

Are you struggling with this?


Lately I have really tuned into how often I take on responsibility for someone else. Maybe it’s what we as women naturally gravitate to, but I have seen men do it as well.

If you are a parent, you definitely understand what I mean. You tell your child to clear the table before you head out for soccer, shopping, Disneyland, whatever…. You are on a time schedule. Your kid is procrastinating, so you jump in and finish it up.

I can’t count the times I’ve done that. Of course we know we shouldn’t, but we’ll do it just this once, because we are in a hurry.

So then I watch myself do this with adults. Most easily with a partner. It can be really little things, like dishes in the sink, clothes on the floor, cheese back in the fridge without wrapping, cap off the toothpaste. Or bigger stuff like making sure the taxes get filed, the bill gets paid, the electrician gets called.

If this only happens once in a while, it’s no big deal. If this is a pattern, if  it keeps reoccurring, then it becomes a heavy burden. At first you don’t even notice it, the weight of it creeps on so gradually, you almost consider it natural, like a part of life.

If you are new in your relationship it may make you feel needed and special…..for a while. Then you settle in and you begin to feel less special, more ticked off. Things need to get done in a timely manner, but you are the only one who realizes that. Slowly but surely, the little things become just as upsetting as the big ones. Like why wouldn’t you rinse the egg off the plate before you put it in the dishwasher? Or if you had just dealt with that phone-call about that delinquent payment maybe the credit score would not have been affected.

Maybe you see it happening in your job. People rely on you regularly. It’s stuff they could do, but they decided to lean on you.  Before you know it, you have taken it on and do it automatically.

The picture I see in my head is a cart with two horses. They both start out pulling the cart until one of the horses gets distracted and starts grazing. The cart doesn’t make progress any more, nor does the partnership. It’s a combination of procrastination and lack of responsibility.

Last Thursday morning I became so aware of all this procrastination around me. It was like someone turned the light on in a dark room. I saw my life full of people who willingly let me take care of things for them. In that moment I made the decision that I am done with that. I will not accept it any more.

I knew without a doubt that this was it!! I am NOT playing on that playground anymore. I am now attracting people who are in charge of their lives, willing to do their part in a timely manner, willing to be equal partners in a project, job or relationship.

Whew! I felt like tons of weight came off in an instant, I feel so much lighter.

I know by the certainty of my decision this will now change. That is the Law of Attraction.



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“Step On It”

Your search is over!!  A simple 8 step process to lift off. You will overcome fear, get unstuck and plugged in to Spirit to live a purposeful, powerful, exciting life. The life you’ve been meant to live all along.

Don’t you long for more meaning, joy, abundance and purpose? Don’t you deserve more? What are you waiting for?

Here are the tools to make it happen. This is all you need to be in charge of your life.

You need to allow yourself to be you, not some copy of someone else. As you get to know your real, true self, as you peel off the layers of convention, the more inspired you will feel.

So who are you? How can you uncover who you are?

Look at your life now. What do you like to do? When are you your happiest? The answers are already there. It may not look like something tangible, like cooking or woodworking; it may be reading, or watching people. You may have an eye for detail in fashion or decorating. You may enjoy sailing, perhaps listening to others’ problems. As you are reading this you may be saying: Yes, that sounds great, but I need to make money. Look at the many ways people create income: Someone came up with stuffing a teddy bear with filling and a heart, giving it a name and birth certificate.  There are professional waterslide testers, Storm Chasers, Video Game Designers, Coffee/Tea Tasters just to name a few unusual actual jobs. That doesn’t mean that you have to look at getting a job. You can design your life and get paid for it. People come up with new ways to make a living every day and you can too!

Pay attention and don’t dismiss anything. There are plenty of clues in your daily life. Let’s figure out what yours are!

There are 8 essential steps that are required for an Inspired Life.




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Live Interview on VoiceAmerica.com

Christina was interviewed live on VoiceAmerica.com Family First internet radio show Friday June 29, 2012. She discussed her new book: The Truth About Parenting, and revealed how parents today face the complexities of multiple work responsibilities, school and afterschool activities, extended family duties, supervision of digital connections, health and more. She went on to explain why we all want to do the best for our kids, but many parents worry that they are falling short, especially when they hear constantly in the news of what can go wrong for kids and young people in the world today.

Listen to the broadcast below.

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