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Finding Peace in Uncertain Times

If you feel confused and uncertain these days, maybe the words by Henri Juntilla https://www.wakeupcloud.com/ will resonate with you.

When I feel frustrated and stressed it is very helpful to remember that God, life, my heart, my soul or my higher self (whatever word works for you) knows and is at peace. Then I can surrender to this moment, this time of uncertainty and stay calm.

The last few years I’ve written a lot about confusion, uncertainty, and not feeling like doing anything.

That’s because I’ve been going through these themes for the last 3-4 years.

Naturally, I’ve had to deal with my own stories, my own fears.

I’ve learned to live with uncertainty.

Uncertainty doesn’t stop me from living my life, because I don’t navigate from my mind. I use my mind, but it’s not the captain of this ship.

I’ve also noticed old projects falling away. Many aspects of who I thought I was have fallen away. Yet nothing has come to replace them.

Not yet.

I’m not entirely sure which projects will regain vitality, and which ones will be lost at sea.

I’ve come to trust that life brings me what I need to navigate through these stormy waters.

I could listen to my mind, but it doesn’t know what’s coming. It only wants illusory certainty. It grasps, searches, and clings.

Life seems to know when and where I’m needed.

If I try to force progress, I exhaust myself. I put extra strain on my ship by trying to go against the flow.

My mind may say “I don’t know what’s going on. We have to figure this out. Do something.”

But my heart, the true captain, is relaxed.

I’m going with my heart, even if I end up “failing.”

It’s unlikely that I’ll fail, but that’s how my mind tries to coerce me into living in its world of fear.

The mind is always trying to come up with a strategy to get something.

Get success. Get love. Get money.

It wants those things, because it thinks that’s the key to everlasting happiness. But it doesn’t work that way.

Happiness is not a cause. It is not something that comes. It is something you tap into, or open, like a fresh can of soda (ptsssch).

You become happy when you decide to become happy.

So…

I don’t know what’s going on. And that’s fine.

My heart navigates the ship just fine. I take one step at a time.

I pay attention to what resonates, and what I have the energy for.

I’ve been doing this for 14+ years, so I’m familiar with the ebbs and flows of life.

Yet my mind wants to complicate things. It wants to figure things out. It wants to get freedom and happiness, yet none of those come from the mind.

They come from letting go of grasping and controlling life.

I’m excited about what’s to come. I don’t know what it is, but I can glimpse land on the horizon. A new port. A new chapter.

Let’s see what happens.

Sometimes we all need a little guidance and if you are in the San Diego area contact http://encinitascounseling.com/ or email me at neuckh@yahoo.com

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procrastination

Lately I have really tuned into how often I take on responsibility for someone else. Maybe it’s what we as women naturally gravitate to, but I have seen men do it as well.

If you are a parent, you definitely understand what I mean. You tell your child to clear the table before you head out for soccer, shopping, Disneyland, whatever…. You are on a time schedule. Your kid is procrastinating, so you jump in and finish it up.

I can’t count the times I’ve done that. Of course we know we shouldn’t, but we’ll do it just this once, because we are in a hurry.

So then I watch myself do this with adults. Most easily with a partner. It can be really little things, like dishes in the sink, clothes on the floor, cheese back in the fridge without wrapping, cap off the toothpaste. Or bigger stuff like making sure the taxes get filed, the bill gets paid, the electrician gets called.

If this only happens once in a while, it’s no big deal. If this is a pattern, if  it keeps reoccurring, then it becomes a heavy burden. At first you don’t even notice it, the weight of it creeps on so gradually, you almost consider it natural, like a part of life.

If you are new in your relationship it may make you feel needed and special…..for a while. Then you settle in and you begin to feel less special, more ticked off. Things need to get done in a timely manner, but you are the only one who realizes that. Slowly but surely, the little things become just as upsetting as the big ones. Like why wouldn’t you rinse the egg off the plate before you put it in the dishwasher? Or if you had just dealt with that phone-call about that delinquent payment maybe the credit score would not have been affected.

Maybe you see it happening in your job. People rely on you regularly. It’s stuff they could do, but they decided to lean on you.  Before you know it, you have taken it on and do it automatically.

The picture I see in my head is a cart with two horses. They both start out pulling the cart until one of the horses gets distracted and starts grazing. The cart doesn’t make progress any more, nor does the partnership. It’s a combination of procrastination and lack of responsibility.

Last Thursday morning I became so aware of all this procrastination around me. It was like someone turned the light on in a dark room. I saw my life full of people who willingly let me take care of things for them. In that moment I made the decision that I am done with that. I will not accept it any more.

I knew without a doubt that this was it!! I am NOT playing on that playground anymore. I am now attracting people who are in charge of their lives, willing to do their part in a timely manner, willing to be equal partners in a project, job or relationship.

Whew! I felt like tons of weight came off in an instant, I feel so much lighter.

I know by the certainty of my decision this will now change. That is the Law of Attraction.

 

 

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