Category: Success

Wayne Dyer’s last gift….it’s free

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We have lost a great soul on this earth. His family posted in social media that: “Wayne has left his body, passing away through the night. He always said he couldn’t wait for this next adventure to begin and had no fear of dying. ” Wayne Dyer has contributed so much to our lives through his books, talks, PBS specials and simply his presence.

One of his famous quotes is: “Love is my gift to the world. I fill myself with love, and I send that love out into the world.”

It was his purpose to re-discover the meaning of life and share it with us, guide us and inspire us. I’m forever grateful to have had the opportunity to experience him in my life.

In honor of his life, Hay House is offering his film “Shift” for a limited time for free. I want to do my part by sharing this link with as many people as I can, because if you are just a little bit willing, it can bring a shift into your life. It is a message we all need to hear.

On some level we are all searching for something. It is built into us, we can’t escape it. We might pretend, but it keeps tugging at us.

We long to find meaning in our lives. We all long for love, peace, joy and purpose.

However, the world we live in is a paradox, an insane place. All you have to do is call a big organization: You will be told “Your call is important to us” and then be put on hold for an indeterminate amount of time. Really?

Governments are meant to serve, but do you feel served or more like a victim of bureaucracy?

We will be punished if we don’t pay our bills, but our governments, who are supposed to represent us, continue to accumulate more debt and print more money. They don’t pay their bills.

Everywhere you look, the action does not reflect the words. The answer is not out there!

Wayne Dyer said: “Society demands conformity at the expense of individual liberty. Let us be for once a non-conformist to be fully alive.”

Our businesses, the media, laws and governments are not run by enlightened, kind, caring people. How can it not be confusing and illogical to follow society’s rules? That is not where the answers are!

In his film “Shift”, Wayne Dyer gently guides us back to ourselves where we have the answers. He does it with such humility, kindness and patience that we lay down our defenses and listen. He does it with such integrity that you feel trust and a willingness to acknowledge the truth of his words.

http://www.drwaynedyer.com/the-shift-movie

So take a few moments to watch this powerful movie and let me know if it made a difference to you.

I’ll leave you with some of my favorite quotes by Wayne Dyer:

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

If you have a choice between right and kind, always choose kind”

Live one day at a time emphasizing ethics rather than rules.”

A mind at peace, a mind centered and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the universe”

Wherever you go, there you are…….NOT

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Wherever you go, there you are, right? Sounds reasonable. After all, you are going, therefore you will find yourself there. Wherever that is.

Going to the supermarket? There you are. Going to Africa? There you are.

What if I said…. not so fast. Maybe you won’t find all of yourself there. Or you’ll find parts of yourself that you didn’t know existed.

People like to say that everything will be the same regardless of location. At least many people in my life have said that. I’ve been told that happiness is within and if you can’t be happy here, you won’t be happy anywhere.

Well, I am disputing that!

I haven’t attained enlightenment yet, so I am still working on finding the best way to maneuver through this life. And yes, I do know that happiness is ultimately within, but there are definitely some exterior circumstances affecting it.

This is what I have found.

Each location carries its own energy. It has its own frequency.

It is something we cannot see, but we have an awareness of it.

You have experienced vibrational energy when you think of times you entered a room full of people. Entering that room may have felt welcoming to you, because it was filled with happy people and positivity. It may have felt uptight, stressful and filled with nervous energy. It may have felt like there was a lot of anger and disappointment.

Whatever it was, you noticed. It affected you.

I use that example because each place on our planet carries its own type of energy based on local history, beliefs, way of life and the climate. Yes, the weather matters.

Compared to the US, Europeans, for example, have a completely different outlook on life, based on their history. That continent has experienced so much change and upheaval. It is like a really old person, who has had a long eventful life. That society has gone through being ruled by Kings and Emperors, Tyrants and modern day Politicians. It has gone through the Dark Ages, the Industrial Revolution, many, many wars, including WWI and WWII, famine, the Depression…….just to name a few. This past has affected the population, it is in their genes, their DNA. A child in Europe is born with that burden of his or her ancestors’ knowledge.

The people in Europe have a long past; hundreds, thousands of years. Going back to the Stone Age and further. It is all condensed and packed into that small continent. You can feel that.

Northern Europeans are generally more somber and intense. Customarily, they smile less and accept the difficulties of life more readily. They have their rules, manners and etiquette. They have their own type of humor, which is typically more sarcastic.

Southern Europeans have that history as well, but they have a warmer climate. Think of Italy, Spain and Greece for example. The energy there is distinctly different from the North. There is more laughter, dancing and an easier way of life layered on top of that somber, age old density of disappointment, pain and suffering.

The climate, as you see, plays a huge part in our lives.

When it is cold, we bundle up, huddle within ourselves and tensely focus on our outside chores to get them done quickly. We stick with what we know and don’t venture outside of that realm generally. The cold doesn’t invite an open, languid, leisurely way of life. Warmth and sunshine on the other hand, create a free, expansive environment. We like being outside, taking our time and being relaxed.

Each continent has its prevailing energy. Each country within that continent develops its own belief system and culture, which gives off its own variation of that energy. You can break that down again into states and counties even.

So, let’s say, you are from Minnesota and I am from Florida. Would you agree that we have a different outlook on life and therefore have our own distinctive spirit? If we each felt our very best in our home states, it’s reasonable to say that if you went to Florida, you might feel off and not totally yourself.

If your nature is open, sociable and active, you will probably feel really miserable in a place where people are closed, suspicious and keep to themselves.

I’ve talked to many people who took the risk to change their circumstances. People who didn’t do well where they were planted. They assumed that this was just the way it was. They had no idea that a change in location could change their lives.

One young man was a terrible student. He barely graduated High School, got into drugs and didn’t look forward to much. His days consisted of odd jobs and hanging out with like-minded buddies. Going to college was not a consideration. However, a few things occurred that caused him to explore a college in another state. He packed his beat up old jeep with a few belongings and moved. Today he is contemplating getting his PhD, is a spiritual, productive, active health nut and has tons of successful friends. He loves where he lives and knows this would not have happened in his place of origin.

An older Australian couple occasionally vacationed on an exotic island, while they were raising their kids. Life was a struggle, filled with somber, soul deadening jobs and chores. There was no lightness and even less laughter. As soon as the kids graduated and went out on their own, they left everything behind to move to that island. I met them surrounded by good friends in a room filled with laughter, anticipation and happiness. This couple had no idea how to make it financially. They sold their belongings and simply trusted that it would work out. It did!

A very successful American woman in her new location didn’t always experience life that way. She used to be married, was raising the kids while he worked and couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. All this while living in Europe. It should have been a dream come true. It wasn’t for her. She found herself at the end of her rope, packed up the kids and moved to the east coast of the US, which suited her so much better that she found her calling.

You probably know someone who took the chance to go somewhere else and it turned out to be the best move they made, because the energy in that new location suited their personality better.

This country has many different energies. The east is built on history, it is older, more set in its ways. It takes a while for a newcomer to be accepted. People typically keep to themselves and stick with the tried and true.

The west was settled by pioneers. Their very nature was curious, adventuresome, open, searching for a better life. It is still the place where most new thoughts and things originate; things that first appear unusual and weird are tried. Odd experiments are accepted and people connect more easily, because being open to new ways of doing things was essential in the pioneer days.

There isn’t really anything new in this universe, but that is another topic.

The point is: Location makes a difference! There are places on this planet that bring out our optimal personality. Places that actually make you more content and possibly happier. Your heart sings. Your life feels richer, more stimulating or peaceful, more joyful, which in turn makes you a more contributing, productive, loving member of society.

So don’t let anyone tell you, wherever you go, there you are. Explore for yourself! You might find you are not at all who you thought you were.

Peru Retreat

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One of my most magical, life-changing journeys has been to Peru.

Peru is a land of exceptional beauty, mystery, rich culture and traditions dating back  to the Incas. From the moment I stepped on the land here, I felt an obvious change, a shift in me. From the airport I saw breathtaking mountain vistas… and once we left the city, time slowed to a gentle rhythm, making my everyday stress and anxiety vanish as if I had been a dream from another life.

Everything there felt more alive, I felt more alive…the mountains, rivers, sky and even the hummingbirds seemed more vibrant! My days were spent soaking up the vibrations and energy from sacred sites and sitting in ceremony with our shamans. I met people from around the world feeling awed by the magic and sacredness of this experience.

I came home a different person, and I knew that I wanted to make this available to you.

to learn the secrets and steps behind living an empowered, passionate, purposeful life

to experience the power of the earth in Peru and participate in sacred ceremonies

to feel the vibration and energy of that ancient land

the opportunity and the ability to make a difference to poor families

 

We have put this retreat together so that you can experience a breakthrough in your life.

Your life will never be the same again.

Statistics show that more and more women feel dissatisfied, unhappy and depressed. They feel as if they are living life on a hamster wheel,  losing the hope of ever getting off.

Do you know anyone like that? 

Do you have time to go to counseling for years? It’s tough to change your life by reading a book

But when you put the four essential ingredients together required for a breakthrough, you better believe it’s going to happen.

If not now….when? I know this may be overused, but really, I ask you when will you actually DO something?

Are you going to live forever?

Do you really have the luxury of letting another day, week, month, years go by…..the same way?

Make an empowered and empowering decision. Join us on our November 2014 retreat in Peru.

Give yourself this gift.

Send an email or call to reserve your spot  

I can’t wait to see you on your path.

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I know you think you can’t change your life…………..

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After I wrote Hope and New Beginnings, I felt that there was more to say.

There is so much mystery and concern about attitudes, thoughts and beliefs. You wonder if you can ever change anything if certain thoughts have dominated your way of thinking for so long. Regardless of your efforts to think good thoughts, the old ones creep right back in on you.

As if that wasn’t enough, you question if you are good enough to deserve better, worthy enough of love, friends, health, or wealth? You ask yourself if you sufficiently appreciate what you already have. And then, oh boy, can you even learn to love yourself?

Here’s the good news: These things don’t have to come first. I was told: “You don’t have to wear a halo to manifest the changes you want.” Isn’t that the truth! There are plenty of people out there who aren’t all that good and have everything they want.

So, when those negative thoughts sneak back in, when those old beliefs re-assert themselves, and we’ve established that they will……………….Keep visualizing, keep imagining!!! Because your subconscious mind processes so much faster than your conscious mind.

Did you get that? Your subconscious processes faster and more thoroughly than your conscious mind! That’s huge. That is the way out.

It’s about repetition!!!

What are those negative beliefs, but repetitive thoughts, things you’ve learned, notions you have become familiar with. Changing them requires that same repeated process. Stay with it and things WILL have to change. It is a universal, spiritual law.

Here’s a little trick: Make flashcards about your negative, stressful thoughts, your anxiety producing moments….anticipate them. Get to know them. Write those situations on the front of your flashcards. Be descriptive, get into it, feel the emotions!

Then on the back write your solutions, your plan of attack, your positive visualization. When your mind goes into that downward spiral, when you forget that there is another way, when you can’t locate those positive thoughts, you will have your solution right there in front of you this time. Now that you are ready for those situations they will gradually lose their power over you.  You will be prepared, you will have a way out this time.

It’s simply a matter of understanding that if you do your part: visualize, prepare the way, and act “as if,” without looking over your shoulder for quick results, what you want must be added unto you… as will the feelings of worthiness, appreciation and loving your most lovable self.

Thoughts become things… choose the good ones!

If you need help, email christina@christinadevalencia.com

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Failure = Success.

I think this is worth retelling:

Why would I make such a statement?  Because it’s true!

The truth is, actually, that there is no failure, remember?  But for the sake of this conversation, we’ll use the word.

So failure is doing something and not having it work out, or turn out, as you expected.  It can be going for a job interview and not getting it, starting to clean out the garage and not finishing it, beginning a relationship and having it end, maybe before it even really got started at all.

Your ability to allow yourself to fail absolutely defines and creates your ability to succeed.  Here’s why…

When you lose the fear of failing and determine that you will stay focused on what you want, no matter what (possibly failing multiple times), you continue to move forward.  With each ‘failure’ you gather further information; maybe an employer or a certain job takes a certification or some other training.  Now you can take the new information and choose to either get what is needed, or choose to go in a different direction.  Either way, you are choosing a solution, and moving forward!  Maybe you determine that cleaning out the garage needs to be done in sections, allowing yourself more than one day, you create a ‘schedule’ to get it done; you create a better solution with the information that the ‘failure’ has given you.  You will begin to align yourself to what you want.  And this can be applied to many areas of your life.

Now I could say it’s the law of averages, meaning that the more attempts you make at something the better the odds of you attaining what you want, and that does play a part, but it’s the energy behind that statement that allows it to work.

This is why:  As you continue to gather further information with each attempt, you are honing your ‘asking’; you are further defining what it is that you want.  Maybe you thought you wanted a certain type of person in a relationship, or you wanted a certain type of job, only to find that you are changing your parameters after collecting more information; you don’t want what you thought you did!  This new information is allowing you to begin to line up with what you do want.

The more you are willing to fail, the more information you are collecting; the more you are defining, and re-defining, what you want.  Imagine, if you are less willing to risk the fear of failing, then you will move more slowly toward your goal; possibly you won’t move at all!  Staying stuck and letting fear ‘drive your bus’, ruining all of your fun, is simply not an option!  Re-write your thoughts about what you think you are ‘failing’ at.  If you went on a job interview and didn’t get the job, you have a choice in how to think about it.  You can think, ‘I don’t like those people’ spinning negativity throughout your day and reality and job search, or you can say, ‘Oh well, that didn’t feel good and it wasn’t for me, and I know because everything that is meant for me comes with ease’.  That provides a release of all negative energy, and now you are ready to face many interviews, collect more and more information, until you create the perfect opportunity.  This does take listening to yourself, both to see what thoughts are creating a negative vibe and to figure out a solution; to figure out a new direction or new goal.

So, Failure is the gateway to Success.  Get on the bike, know that you may fall off in order to learn how to ride it!

As written by Vicki Murphy, BFA, RMPT, IEP

Finding balance…not an easy thing

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I was talking with a friend today who was wondering what the real secret to success is. Everyone always tells you to see yourself having or doing what you really want. Well, he said, that’s no problem for him, he is great at visualizing…..so why isn’t he successful yet?

While he was talking, someone came to mind who is always busy, always doing, but not being successful. As a matter of fact that person often runs into closed doors, impossible hurdles or just plain brick walls.

I believe that it is a balance, you have to walk the fine line of visualizing and doing. Take one step toward your goal, while you feel yourself having it. Consistently!

Understand what it is you want. Most people don’t want a bag of money, they want what the money can do for them. What is it that you really long for?

Be clear, be specific! I wasn’t planning on writing this piece, because I spent a good portion of my life being vague….. and maybe I am feeling a bit inadequate to write about being clear.

But I realize there is nothing wrong with that. I was vague enough that when something good came my way I was ready and able to jump on it. Maybe if I had been on a set course I wouldn’t have allowed myself to do that.

What I am seeing now, however, …..now that I know more clearly what I want….the more specific I am, the quicker I reach my specific goal.

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